I don't understand...

Why for those who've done me wrong, they'd have to go up to a mutual friend and ask them to ask me if I'm mad at them.

I ended up saying "do you think I'm mad at them?"

I don't understand that if those people think I'm mad at them already and crucifixes that judgement on to me. Why would they bother asking someone else to come up to me and ask "are you mad at so and so?". I am already labelled as being mad at that person, why would that person want to go the extra mile to ask someone else to ask me that?

Obviously they are trying to make themselves look good. By asking a third person to listen up to their part of the story first. So that if I say Yes, they have an opportunity to say "oh Jane is so short tempered. she's mad over that". Either way if I say No, they also have the opportunity to say "Jane says she is not mad but she doesn't talk to me anymore". To be honest Jenn doesn't talk to you anymore because you don't talk to her anymore. 

Moral of the saying is Jane is screwed either way. Not because of what she says but because of what people perceive her as saying. Then this chaos of a loop kicks in and drama drama drama occurs...Why put yourselves in that situation? If you really cared go ahead ask me yourself, write me a note that can be replied.

If not a message for those who've done me wrong: "Save it. I frankly don't care. End of story". Being treated a certain way can be done using a mirror and like the saying goes "you treat people how you want to be treated"